When life throws you lemons you make lemonade. If they don’t know you personally, don’t take it personally. When things happen to you from people who don’t understand your worth don’t take it personally. It's not about you, it's about them.
You could be taking something personally that has/had nothing to do with you. Consider that for a moment if what is happening or has happened has anything to do with you at all. If it does, own your part of it and that's it. Their behavior, their anger, their rudeness, their cheating, their hurtful words, their neglect, and that negative energy they gave you, it wasn’t about you. NONE of it! It could be strictly about THEM! The issues they have within themselves belong to them and they must deal with that.
There is no need to walk around with that hurt on your shoulder thinking it was all your fault. It’s not you! I remember at times when things were going wrong for me whether it was from a friendship, relationship or just things happening in life period I always played the blame game and blamed myself for every bad action that was happening to me before I blamed the other person. That literally broke me inside because I was self-sabotaging me for years. No, I wasn’t perfect, but everything wasn’t all my fault I just felt like that. I used to say well if I had done this maybe this wouldn’t have happened. If I change on the account of what they were saying to me maybe things would work out. Have you blamed a lot of stuff happening to you on yourself?
If you answered yes, STOP! If they don’t work on their problems, it will happen again, again and again but don’t let it be with you. So don’t take it personally.
I’m not perfect. You’re not perfect and yes you might have done something along the way but for others behavior we will not blame ourselves for. Use that painful experience from your past to help make you who you are. Don’t let it define you, instead let it build you and your strength.
If people speak badly about you to your face or behind your back, it’s enough to destroy your sense of self-worth. The only accountability you need is to acknowledge your part and your fault without being at fault for everything. So, allow yourself to make mistakes, make a misstep, take responsibility for your actions but don’t forget to forgive yourself, and don't punish yourself.
You can’t keep blaming yourself and taking possession of others’ problems personally. It is prolonging your improvement. Remember that there’s no such thing as mistakes if you learn from them. When the day is over, let it go. Don’t dwell on nothing because tomorrow is another day and another chance. Keep your power!
In the future, and through life lessons I’ve learned what I do and I’m speaking to you today that whatever you do, don’t take it personally. Don’t make anybody pain your pain. Don’t make their darkness your darkness. Do not allow them to put you in a position where you’re their …….
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